I remember the day this tragic event happened, I was laying in my bed and my life was much more carefree then, I lived in Marina Del Rey. I got a phone call to turn on the news and my heart was broken. I still get chills when I think about this day. I couldn’t imagine losing someone this way, but to those that have I’m sorry for your loss. May God keep you…
“Your time is limited, so don’t waste it living someone else’s life. Don’t be trapped by dogma — which is living with the results of other people’s thinking. Don’t let the noise of others’ opinions drown out your own inner voice. And most importantly, have the courage to follow your heart and intuition. They somehow already know what you truly want to become. Everything else is secondary.” – Steve Jobs
“Everything around us is made up of energy. To attract positive things in your life, start by giving off positive energy.” unknown
“Nothing is likely to help a person overcome or endure troubles than the consciousness of having a task in life.” ~ Victor Frankl
Wearing: Sweet Rags Dress, YSL Heels, Marc Jacobs Bag, Tom Ford shades.
If you’re one of those people that can go somewhere and the energy in the room doesn’t phase you then you are a very blessed person. I always thought that it was a curse for me to feel the bad vibes whenever I’m around people. It kinda throws me off sometimes because I’m such a happy person and I love people so much. When I go out to different events sometimes I can feel the negative energy in some people and if it’s someone you don’t know then you really just have to brush it off, but when you go someplace you’ve been invited to by close friend’s or family and it’s suppose to be a intimate occasion filled with love, it can get weird.
I just started learning the power of energy. I can be going through the worst thing ever and if I commit to something I’m going to show up. When I show up I’m smiling always. I watched on a episode of Oprah, that you need to be careful of the energy you bring into someone’s space. She has a sign up in her office “be careful of the energy you bring into this space”. Only after I heard that from one of the most successful people in the world was when I knew this is real and I had to surround myself with great energy and separate myself from negative energy.
Now when it’s in your control you’d think is would be simple right, but for me that’s not always the case. I found myself to be a people pleaser. When I have a party (wedding, baby shower) I like take care of everyone around me. I want them to eat the best and feel the best . This is just me. But I’m now learning the key to this is to do it for the right people! Don’t waste your good energy on bad people! That’s the key. As I’m writings this I’m still feeling sorry for the people that I had let go recently because of bad energy. I’ve seen the good in them at one point, but I can no longer waste my energy trying to cater to someone that needs to look within and change who they are which will take time and growth on their part.
Spare yourself the headache and let go of bad energy people. I don’t care who they are separate yourself and if you feel bad pray for that person. They’ll in time come around, and if not don’t lose any sleep. I can no longer waste my what’s suppose to be enjoyable moments on bad energy people. I feel this is one of the keys to a smoother life.;)
Tip of the day: Try not to entertain the wrong people…
Wearing: Gryphon skirt, Vertigo Top, Christian Louboutin Heels, Christian Dior Bag.
I’ve been getting asked repeatedly about my workout regimen. Truth is I didn’t work out for the entire month of July. I’ve been doing pilates for the past 7 years with a trainer. I now take classes because I know the keys of pilates that only an instructor can teach you. One of the odd reasons I love it is because you don’t have to wear shoes, but the main reason is because it focuses on your core no matter what part of the body you’re working on. The main thing to remember when doing pilates is to breathe in, breathe out and hold your core tight while closing your rib cage.
The reason I started pilates was because I had 3 months after having a baby(c-section) to get ready for my weeding. I had a little belly pouch that felt numb, but pilates worked underneath the surface to tighten me back up in no time plus had me in better shape than I’ve been in my entire life! I’ve been hooked ever since. Check out my moves…I’m back on track and here’s a couple workout pics.
First pic: I’m holding my legs in table top as I prepare to lift myself up breathing in, I then exhale slowly and lift my legs stright out. Then I put my head back down positioning my legs back into to table top at the same time. Two sets of 8.
Second pic: This exercise is always tough for me. You have to lift yourself one vertebra at a time. The key to lifting yourself up is to suck your core in overtime. The same applies when you lower back down, one vertebra at a time while tucking your tail bone breathing in and out the entire time. So actually this move is a bit more tedious than shown in the pics. I do this about 5 times.
Third pic: Now it’s on to the arms. Now just because we’re working on our arms doesn’t mean we forget about our core. The great thing about pilates is as your working one part of your body you’re always working your core. So I’m holding my rib cage closed while sucking my tummy in tight while lifting 5lb weights pushing them back and forth. The reason one leg is in front of the other is for balance. 3 sets of 15.
Forth pic: Hold the weights and squat, now lower, hold, now you can release. Remember hold your stomach in the entire time, now repeat. I do 3 sets of 15
I want to thank all of my readers for your words of encouragement! You are now added to my list of things that brighten up my day!;)All the emails stating how thankful you are really was appreciated.
Thanks for the inspiration with the moving pics ♡tanvii:).
Lately my mind hasn’t been clear due to personal things that’s going on with my family. I’ve been wondering why things happen the way they happen even though I’m not suppose to think this way. I’ve also been wondering how people that are back stabbers and snakes walk around so normal. I’ve just been praying for God to clear my mind and to keep me focus on the important things in my life. People will call me or e-mail me and go straight to a question, no hi how are you. Everyone always looks to me because of my strength, but I’m human too and sometimes people forget…
When I’m sad I normally look at my daughters and they instantly brighten up my day. When I’m alone I look down at these two special bracelets and I know I’m special and loved:) I love this pic because my daughter was looking down at me (and it also shows both bracelets clearly) with admiration. You can tell I’m looking at someone special.
When you’re down try to think of the treasures in your life.
I get a lot of questions about the significance of these two bracelets and why I never take them off. The green jade bracelet was given to me by my play mom Kim. When I was a young girl I was very independent. I would walk to the nail shop every two weeks to get my nails and feet done at the age of 14 with the money I made from doing hair in my moms kitchen. The owner of the nail shop took a liking to me. She always said “three’s something about you that’s special and you are wise for your age. When you come in the shop everyone is curious about you, even grown women ask me about you.” She also told me to be careful.
One day when I walked into her shop she told me she had a gift for me. I had just turned 19. Before I opened it I was thankful because she didn’t have to buy me a gift. It was a tiny jade bracelet. She then called one of her employees to help her oil it on my hand. She told me it would shrink with time and the lighter it gets the better luck you’ll have. She’s Vietnamese so it’s apart of her culture. She also said it’s bad luck when you buy them for yourself. It never came off my wrist since that day. The nail shop is quite a distance from where I live now, but I call and check on her and she holds a special place in my heart;)
My Cartier love bracelet was given to me by my husband. It’s engraved with something special on the inside and I hold this bracelet dear to my heart… I can’t take it off unless we use the device that it came with. I recently got it polished and when I got home to put it back on I lost a screw. Getting one made asap:)
Finally got around to sharing this with you.
Tip of the day: The fear of what hasn’t happened yet is pointless…
I’ve been so busy with my bussiness and getting the kids ready for school, in addition I’m running around all during the worst heat wave since summer started. Hopefully I’ll be back to my routine with writting and regular postings soon. Have a great day everyone:)
This is the longest I’ve ever gone without getting my hair done. I’ve been in the water a lot due to the massive heat wave, so I’ve been really creative with my hair. I’m the girl in the group that always has curls, a bow or something sparkly in her hair, cause I’m a girlie girl. I’ve also been playing with scarves lately and I’m loving how I’m able to camouflage my bad hair days. I plan on showing you some pics on how to achieve my wavy natural look soon.
Tomorrow my family and I are going to stuff backpacks for less fortunate kids. I’ll let you guys know how it went on my next post.
Tip of the day: Volunteer before the summers up…
Wearing in 1st pic: Miu Miu Polka Dot Heels, Rich&Skinny Jeans, Liz Clabourne neon pink blouse, Chanel Bag
Wearing in 2nd pic: Gifted jumpsuit from my friend, Steve Madden Wedges, LV Bag.
I received an email from a young lady about a week ago and I immediately responded telling her to send me her number, but never heard back from her. She stated that life is so tough for her and she doesn’t have any close friends or family near her while finishing her schooling abroad, in addition her mother doesn’t even bother to check on her. She also said she feels like giving up.
I want to take the time to tell this young lady to stay strong. This experience will give you character and show you that YOU are all YOU got. You also have to learn to depend on God when you’re feeling alone. Please never forget that He is there when no one else is. He has gotten me through my tough times when I felt like “why is happening to me”.
I’ve had my fare share of trials. I made it through with prayer, faith and knowing that there is a reason why this is happening. I wouldn’t change one thing if I could either…when you look back you’ll see it wasn’t that bad and you’ll admire yourself for your strength.
I want all of my readers to pray for this girl. She’s a young girl alone so let’s pray for her to stay busy and focused on school so that she can be a successful young lady and meet a successful young man and have an amazing family that she’s always desired.:)
Tip of the day: It’s ok to stand alone and stand strong sometimes! Remember this struggle is temporary.
Wearing: Elizabeth and James Blazer, Sweet Rags Silk razor tank, Paige Jean Shorts, Gucci Bag, YSL Heels.
This is normally what we stock our bar with on special occasion… see you soon….
Originality is a rarity these days. People change who they are for the weirdest reasons when they were perfectly fine before, in fact they were better…original. No one really wants to be who they are because they are too busy trying to impress other people. This is one thing that I feel that I’ve never had a problem with. If you ask someone that has known me for fifteen years they’ll tell you “Tanya loves fashion, she loves to help people and loves sharing knowledge”. Originality is a gift from God. He makes all of us different.
You may not think so, but an outsider looking in is always able to tell when someone is mimicking another person. When you aren’t being who you are it seeps through and you don’t even know it. You truly can’t be yourself because you’re too busy trying to portray an “image” that is not real, superficial. I feel like you can look great on the outside because you’ve looked through a couple magazines and picked up on someone else’s style, but what does your heart look like. This is why people that aren’t true to themselves never become what they really can be within because they are too busy trying to be someone else…and it shows.
Your heart is the only thing that doesn’t lie. People can feel that as well. If your heart is spiteful and evil remember you are always gonna be an ugly person no matter how beautiful you may think you are. God knows your heart at the end of the day and that’s where the blessings come in and I’m talking about the favors that money can’t buy, contentment.:) Do you truly have a beautiful heart? If not work on it.
Love who you see in the mirror “YOU” not someone else. Will people say you’ve changed into something else that you weren’t before because you’re trying to be like someone else?. Be yourself!
Tip of the day:” Be yourself. The world worships the original.” Ingrid Bergman
Please excuse my absence. I’ve been so busy with my family. See you soon and have a great week everyone:)!
Also if you have a question about something leave your email in the comment section so I can reply.
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Ever had a weird feeling about something and you kept telling yourself “something just isn’t right”? Well I’m learning more as the days go on to trust that sixth sense that I know comes from above telling me to leave something or someone alone. If you have no choice in the matter just proceed with caution…
Loving these light weight pants I got from Zara a few weeks ago. I also purchased them in yellow. Wearing them with my nude patent leather
Sandals with crystal embellishment are a glamorous warm-weather style.
Scarves are perfect for taming those stubborn edges during the summer’s humidity.
This style bag is perfect if you’re going to a festival, amusement park, or just a nice stroll on the beach.
When the seasons change I always change up the products I use on my body.
1. The Body Shop Tea Tree Skin Clearing Facial Wash Regular – 8.4 fl oz. I’m in love with this stuff! I had a little breakout on my forehead and this stuff cleared it right up.
2. Skin Tight Bikini Astringent. I use this after my waxes to prevent ingrown hairs.
3. Neutrogena Sun block with Hydroplex. I love this because it’s for sensitive skin and gives you the ultimate protection.
4. Mitchum Advanced control. In the summer I’m out all day so I need protection that will last all day.
An easy breezy dress.
Last summer essential: Don’t for get to have fun. I was literally with seven kids ranging from 5-17 yesterday. I was the only adult. We went to the beach followed by lunch on the beach in cabanas.
Hope everyone has a great weekend.
Wearing: Gucci Heels, Marc Jacob Bag, Leifsdottir Dress.
Wore this to an early dinner…
Wore this outfit to run errands and meet with a new client. I haven’t done anything to my hair (time to put some use to my massive scarf collection) due to the intense humidity, running around visiting every theme park in Cali and let’s not forget my weekly visits to the beach every summer. Hope you guys have a great weekend. I’m going to try and stay out of the way of carmegedon(the shut down of the most used freeway).