When we work hard and achieve goals, it is natural to feel good about ourselves and be prideful. On another aspect of pride (relationships, friendships) it’s not always a great thing. When you know you’re wrong when it comes to the people you love, pride should not be your choice of action.

Would you consider someone who doesn’t listen to someone because of their pride, even though they may be wrong, to be a good thing? I tend to have too much pride sometimes when it comes to my husband. I think it has helped our relationship over the years, but it’s not a good thing all the time. Example: In the past if he made me upset I’d want to call him but my pride wouldn’t let me. My pride made me believe he’d be there no matter what happened. This easily could have went the other way and we wouldn’t have been together right now if he didn’t fight for our relationship. Follow your heart and don’t be superciliousness knowing you can lose someone you love.

Another way of looking at this is how do you use your pride, to what end is it a source of false confidence, or a genuine sense of accomplishment. I take pride in my website, but by far I don’t think I’m the best blogger. I’m always willing to learn as much as I can from anyone.

There are two types of pride: arrogance and confidence. We have to be mindful to stay towards the confident side of pride because it can be the downfall of many great people.

Tip of the day: “Always approach decisions of the heart with caution” -B:}

Wearing: 6 year old Janette dress, Gucci Heels, Prada Bag.

Thanks to my assistant that’s been helping me this summer. 🙂

A good friend of mine was reading my post and came to the following conclusion: when a father and daughter have a more meaningful relationship, where he’s a constant in her life, the daughter may be much more successful in her adult relationships.  Most times when a woman has an ongoing, happy relationship with her father, she exudes more confidence when dealing with other men.  Many times the very first male-female relationship a woman has is with her father, so the bond or lack thereof, has the power to affect her throughout the rest of her remaining relationships with the opposite sex.  

 I’ve never thought about this so intimately; I can only go off of her feelings and personal experiences.  It makes me wonder if this theory is true for others. In my opinion, she’s turned into a beautiful young lady, but when it comes to her relationships with men, she does exhibit many of the same issues that most women in similar situations have: She settles for less, when she’s clearly worthy of so much more. 

 When I was 15 my father moved to Belize. I was really hurt because my dad and I shared a very close and special relationship.  As I look back during his absence, although it was for a short period, things in my life at that time changed and took a different direction.  I know everything happens for a specific reason, but as I reflect on my situation, it really makes me wonder how one small aspect of a person’s life can generate such a drastic change.  The same situation can have a completely different effect or outcome in the lives of two different people.

 Regardless of whether someone has a father or not, God is your father and he is always there to talk to so never forget that 😉

Tip of the day: Live with no excuses and love with no regrets.
— Montel

Wearing: T-shirt & skirt Nordstrom rack, CL Heels, Gucci Bag.

I know everyone will enjoy this beautiful day. Happy 4th of July. Remember to cherish your loved ones.:)

Wearing: Myne blouse, F21 shorts, Miu Miu Polka Dot Platforms.

I’ve been working very hard on a project that I will launch next week. See you soon…

This weekend I was invited to a girls night out. It was hosted by my cousin. I needed to get out with the ladies and just laugh. Her friends welcomed me in with open arms as if it wasn’t the first time we’ve met. We ate jambalaya, chocolate covered strawberries, and played lots of games that I’ve never tried before. We had a ball! Although I missed my girls I needed this time to get away and just have fun.

When you are married with a family you have to learn to have balance. I’ve realized that even though you may want to be with your family all the time, it’s necessary to  take time for yourself as well as make time for the other great people in your life. It’s important not to forget about the people that have been there for you. So to me if you cannot balance your friends/family/significant other because in your world the only thing that is important to you is what makes you happy at that moment, then that is a big sign of immaturity. In every relationship there’s a difference. Some require more effort, some require less effort. It doesn’t mean that one is less important than the other. Value the special people in your life by showing them they matter.

It’s important to nurture all your relationships! That’s what helps you maintain all the balance you need in your life…from what I learned.

Tip of the day: The key to keeping your balance is knowing when you’ve lost it. Anonymous

Found this dress for a steal at one of the vintage stores I shop at. The detailing is just amazing.

I’ve noticed about 80% of the people I encounter are nosy. A nosy person loves to snoop or interfere in the privacy of an individual. Basically it signifies that person gets  into an individual’s business! Why is this? I know I can’t get into their brain, but I was just wondering how does one get satisfaction in knowing that someone is in a bad situation.  To top it off they know that person is going through something, but still want to add insult to injury and bring it up (without concern) instead of wishing the person well or  just seeing if the individual is alright.

You have a right to privacy, everyone from every walk of life has problems at times….and we have a right to just say, I prefer not tot talk at this time. I’m amazed at the questions people chose to ask. We can learn from others so channel the nosy energy and ask about something positive that is  going on in the persons life…since the person is that interesting to you.

When becoming confident and comfortable with whom you are then you can easily deal with others who just want to bring you down or find the negative things that may have occurred in your life. Vice versa if you are the nosy individual as you become interested in bettering your own life you won’t have time to worry about others.

 I’m building the courage to say to the next person that ask me a personal question (in my nice voice) HOW ABOUT NONE OF YOUR BUSINESS, GET A LIFE, READ A BOOK.:)

Quote of the day: “Those who pry into other people’s affairs will hear what they do not like.”

Wearing: Dress, Gifted with no tag inside.

Happy Father’s Day

Yesterday I spent the day with my dad. He is such a great person inside out. He has the most beautiful smile. I get my people skills and my personality from him.

When I was a younger my dad would take me to dinner every Thursday. I would feel like a princess. He taught me to act like a lady at the dinner table. This was our special bonding time. I could tell my daddy anything. We were so close. My husband treats our girls the same way. 🙂

Happy Father’s Day to all the great fathers;). Hope you all had a great weekend!

 Wore this to my daughters recital.

What I wore…busy week…see you soon.

Find the perfect summer robe that’s light enough to wear eating breakfast on the balcony on a tropical vacation. It was perfect for my mini vacation I took last week…

Obtain a hat beyond compare to cover up your precious face from sun damage.

Diamond studs add an unmatched sparkle to your ear while  lounging at the pool without going overboard. Also works great with a sleek bun.

These neon bras restore interest to an otherwise plain tank.

A statement watch is needed winter/spring/summer/fall! This is my baby girls watch. She gets so many compliments when she wears this watch. 

Tip of the day: Enjoy finding these summer essentials…

It’s important to reorganize when you are growing. It’s suppose to be a happy time but not always because as you’re growing you have to leave some people behind. As we grow we have to not allow ourselves to get distracted by the minute challenges that come our way. I’ve had a lot of  great experiences in my life and others look in with admiration sometimes envy, but they also don’t want the problems that come with my life and probably couldn’t last one week in my shoes.

I know a lot of you don’t know me personally, so allow me to  let you in fo a sec, I’m COMPASSIONATE and STRONG. I have sincere love for people. I crave to teach others from my past mistakes.

I wish I had a mentor growing up to show me a peak into life’s challenges before I face them for myself.  Of course I had my mother and I thank her for the way she has raised me, but it’s nothing like a mentor, someone older than you, a sincere person that has your best interest at heart that you can talk to about anything. I personally never had someone like this in my life. Sometimes others don’t want to share their life with you due to being hurt in the past. That’s why I  what I do when I can. I fervently want everyone to be their best and I have no fear of them far surpassing goals bigger than they’ve imagined.

Remember there’s a gift and a curse that comes with everything. What I’m strive for everyday is to be at peace with the present, acknowledging that I’m blessed, not wanting anything but knowing I’ve never taken anyone or anything for granted… especially appreciating the small things.

Inner peace is a beautiful thing and takes work. Have a great week everyone…

It’s gloomy in Cali this week…

Tip of the day: Leave me a tip of the day…

In life we go through ups/downs and it may seem tough sometimes, but have you ever looked back and meditated on how you’ve made it through. The grace of God is upon all of us, so when great things happen in my life I try to concentrate on those treasures (not boasting) instead of focusing on the negative.

Sometimes good things happen to people and it overwhelms them. You should always take the great things that happen in your life as favor from God and not use it to gloat, furthermore when you gloat it can turn something positive happening in your life into a negative.

What I’m really trying to say is when something good happens in your life it’s a blessing and it should be celebrated not flaunted and thrown in other peoples faces.

Tip of the day: Being humble is the greatest gift that you can receive…

Wearing: Vintage Kimono Cape, Nikki Jaggs Belt, F21 Shorts, CL Heels, LV bag.

More Quotes:

“When my heart is overwhelmed: lead me to the rock that is higher than I” Anonymous

“Remember now, cheers, no tears…” Maryilyn Monroe

“For beautiful eyes, look for the good in others; for beautiful lips, speak only words of kindness; and for poise, walk with the knowledge that you are never alone.” Audrey Hepburn

 “A good head and a good heart are always a formidable combination.” Nelson Mandela

“The most courageous act is still to think for yourself. Aloud.” Coco Chanel

Wearing: Random top, R&R jeans, Christian Louboutin Lady Daf Nude Platform Pumps, my B’s hat.

Sometimes people want to attack you (the devil is using them and they don’t even know it) once they detect you have a positive spirit (why is she always smiling) as well as test you, try to knock you off your path. I’ve come too far for this to happen. In addition to my theory, I’m getting pretty good at letting things roll off my back especially now that I’ve recognized He is on my side (He knows what He’s doing) plus I know I’m a good person. NO DOUBT!

My faith in Him is very strong and it has taken a while to get to this point. I’ve  relized apart of the journey is… you have to be tested. When you are tested know that something big is waiting on you so just be patient, stay ready and know deep inside your heart that it will be ok.

Tip of the day: “You can’t put yourself in anyone’s head and try to figure out why they do what they do” B:)

WEARING: Gap top, Rebecca Taylor shorts, Fendi Spy bag, Gucci heels.

Woman support

Today I met with my new client that flew in from Louisiana, she was such a breath of fresh air. We chatted over wine and cucumber martinis, while enjoying the beautiful scenery at the W Hotel in Hollywood. It’s amazing to meet strong successful women that’s confident. I’m also glad that she chose to support my business.

Tip of the day: Support women…

Wearing: La Rok Blouse, Rock&Republic jeans, Fendi Heels, LV bag

HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO MY BABY GIRL TODAY!

Human nature cannot be predicted

It’s funny how people can change over night. This just shows you that you have to be secure within yourself to know that with or without a person in your life, God is always with you.

Its hard to get over someone if you still see them every day, so if they’re still a part of your daily routine, something needs to change. The best way is to move on without them is to meet new people and try not to spend your time thinking about them.  You should be celebrated not tolerated, so if someone doesn’t show you that you mean a great deal to them, remove yourself.

Tip of the day: You should always be loved, not used when needed.

Wearing: See by Chole Top, Dylan George Jeans, Sergio Rossi Heels, Balenciaga bag.

Sometimes we tend to hold on to things from our past which allows us to hold others accountable for those misfourtunes. It’s perfectly understandable to be hurt and proceed with caution when dealing with certain things in your life, but we have to learn to forgive and move on. I’ve said this before, you have to forgive to truly receive the blessings God has in store for you. When you don’t forgive the bitterness in your heart often gets taken out on the closest people to you. Another reason why you should forgive is because you will never truly be happy if you don’t… and it shows.

I’ve forgiven anyone that has ever done anything to me. I may not forget and it’s my decision if I decide to let that person back in my life. As I’m growing older I’m starting to see the signs of a deceitful person, furthermore no matter how careful you are, there will always be someone that will disappoint you so we have to have a pure heart and forgive them. 

Forgive so your smile can shine from the inside out. When you do this you’ll see all the blessings God had waiting for you….especially when you see others with love and forgive as He would. 

Tip of the day: “Every mistake has a halfway moment, a split second when it can be recalled and perhaps remedied.” Pearl S. Buck

Wearing: Target top, Sweet Rags vest, Paige shorts, Fendi Heels, Prada Bag.