Don’t TRIP!

 painting

I had a styling gig on Saturday and got locked out the house! So, I was forced to make an unnecessary purchase. The stores only have Fall clothing out now so I didn’t get to do bright colors for the 109* weather but I worked it out.  Then on Sunday, Laila and I went to Color Me Mine and had a blast! Painting is quite therapeutic. It really helped me to sit down, relax and enjoy the little things. I have to paint more often. Amaya loves painting and she’s really good. The rest of the family went to London and will be home tonight. I can’t wait to see them. Hope you guys have a great week.

Tip of the day: It’s a sign of character to give someone a second chance

paintingpaintingpaintingWearing: ZaraJacket, Cache jumper, Jimmy Choo Heels, Marc Jacob Handbag.

Book and street smart?

Book and street smart?

This is my go too dress. I can wear this dress everyday. You can throw it on without a bra and roll out.

Hello Tanya,

This is me Missy B from Paris. I am coming to you again because i am having a real problem that i would like to talk to you about. Since i consider you as my role model and a wise person even if i do not know a lot about you, i just feel like you are a good person and who will help me with this situation.

It has been a year since i was in that relationship with that guy. ( i know you are not doctor love). The connection between the two of us is so intense. We are really close. I am myself around him and i don’t care about have make up on or not in front of him. He makes me a better person. I have never been so close to someone. We are already talking about life together, marriage, house, kids and everything. I love his personality that is the thing that i love about him the most the thing that attracted me on the first place. That kind of personality from a guy is what i have always wanted. I know he loves me to death. But I don’t have a real physical attractiveness for him. He looks cute but i am not sexually attracted to him. We had sexual relations before and it was great but when i looked at him i am not physically attracted. I know that the physic doesn’t mean much but i don’t now what to do. 
I told him yesterday that we are going to have a break then i can think about if i  really love him or if he is just a friend for me. 
And now i do not know what to do because i can’t decide. I just want to have your point of view based on what i just told you. I am really confused. I am thinking about fasting to get more answer to ask God to help me see things better because i don’t want to regret loosing that guy. And i think that staying with him despite my confusion would be unfair to him.

Thank you for taking your precious time to read this.
I am sorry for the mistakes I am french. 
Best regards,
Missy B

Hello Missy B,

You asked the right person. I’m the one that gives all my friends advice about relationships. I think that you should fall in love with the way a person treats you. He seems to be the perfect guy so you shouldn’t let his looks deter weather you should take it to the next level. I’m gonna put it to you like this(hypothetical question) if you found out that he started dating another women because you wanted a break and you found out it was some beautiful gal would you want him to yourself then. I’m always that girl that falls in love with someone for their heart. I dated a guy same scenario and when I started dating him everyone wanted him. Does he have a nice swag to him? Does he dress nice? Is he clean cut? These are the things that seal the deal if he’s not that attractive to you and weigh the pros and cons. I personally think you’d be making a huge mistake if you let him go. Would you rather have a fine jerk that cheats on you and has no moral values, integrity or a kind considerate person that you can be yourself around. Think about it.:). 

Just ask Tanya:)???

Ask Tanya

 ask Tanya

Summer is almost gone.:( Sometimes I get tired of the heat but I will sure miss it. I love sandals so get ready to see me wear them in the fall. It’s starting to cool off in the evenings here in Cali so here is a perfect fit for transitioning from summer to fall. I wore this dress alone and when it got chilly paired them with leggings.

Spent the entire day with my hubby eating junk food.

ask Tanyaask TanyaI’ve been getting tons of e-mails requesting to add a ask Tanya (advice colum) to my site. I got my first question and I’m so excited that anyone even values my opinion.:) STAY TUNED…

I can never show you guys enough Gratitude!!!!

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ATTITUDE

 “Attitude is more important than the past, than education, than money, than circumstances, than what people do or say. It is more important than appearance, giftedness, or skill.

The remarkable thing is, we have a choice everyday regarding the attitude we will embrace for that day.

We cannot change our past. We can not change the fact that people act in a certain way. We can not change the inevitable. The only thing we can do is play on the one string we have, and that is our attitude.”

Thanks T for sending me this. Now I can share with you because I totally agree!!!

attitudeattitudeattitudeJust wanted to send a shout out to all my readers that has taken the time out to leave me words of encouragement when I feel I don’t have the answers! You never know how one kind gesture can change someone’s day, maybe even their life! When I see someone looking down or even with a mean look on their face (like don’t speak to me) I make it a point to smile at them or say hello how are you. Keep it up you guys and you will stay blessed, I guarantee it!!!!

 

Wearing: Marcus Madison dress, Marc Jacob Hand bag, H&M jacket, Proenza Schouler heels.

I gotta story to tell….

lifeThis juice isn’t cutting it. I hope it cools off soon…

lifeLaila: come on mommy let’s play you love the beach…(she sensed I’m not being my normal self)

Amaya: here’s a rock mom hope you feel better…(she reads my blogs gotta watch what I say)

Laila: I found you a pretty rock with a heart… We love you..:)

It really had a heart!

lifeEverything is gonna be alright….

lifeYesterday was a good day………..

No matter how it seems, no ones life is perfect. It will be tough sometimes but when you surround yourself with happy people you have no choice but to smile.

This is my last day of my fast and it’s going well. I’m back on my game.

Hope everyone has a great week.

Smiling on the outside…..

 

I had a pretty relaxed weekend. I worked, attended a couple birthday parties and watched movies with my little crew (my family). I’ve been reading a couple blogs because it seems that I have writer’s block lately and can’t get anywhere. Seeing what others have to say inspires me.

I want to tell you guys about something really great but deep inside I’m feeling like something is terribly wrong. I’ve been reading e-mails from my readers and one seems to stick out in my mind. I tend to take the weight of other people on myself sometimes. I don’t think it’s a bad thing but sometimes I feel weird inside. I don’t want it to change because I like to pray for others and I feel like my prayers really work. I can see someone on the street and I’ll start praying for them. Is this weird? It can’t be a bad thing because it’s doing something good right?

Overall, I still had a great weekend and smiled a lot but there’s just a lot going on in my mind and I need to clear my head. I have decided to start a fast (no eating with the exception of tea, water, and fresh juice) and pray Tuesday and Wednesday from sun up til sun down.

If anyone would like to join me, feel free to e-mail me. This seems to always clear my mind and things are revealed to me that are in question. Trust me this works. I’ll also make a vow to my church. What do you guys do to clear your mind when you can’t seem to think clearly?

Quote of the day- “From my mouth to God’s ears” -speacial reader

“It’s better to be a good nobody than an evil somebody”

 

If there is one thing I can’t stand, it’s someone that’s not a person of their word. But to add my disclaimer, anyone that has done anything to me, to include not keeping their word, I have always forgiven them as long as they come to me and sincerely apologize. My friends call me stupid sometimes but that’s just my heart forgiving. I love people. I just don’t always like their ways. Love is ever forgiving. But, taking advantage is not love, right?

If I say I’m gonna do something, you can count on me to do it, no doubt. If I didn’t follow thru on my word to you, I wouldn’t be able to sleep. For instance, I could never owe anyone money and be able to sleep at night (thank God this has never occurred but if it did I would make it priority over anything else). Some people just assume that you have it but they never know your circumstances. 

I also don’t appreciate when people don’t take your time seriously. (Time is money). I learned this from one of my best friends. If we were going somewhere and I’d forget, she’d be there and super upset if I forgot. Sometimes, I’m a la la carefree person and may miss an appointment or two. In the past year, I organized my business schedule to clear three days to accommodate clients only for them to have cancelled at the last minute. It’s a lesson learned because now I require a deposit before I book a big job that will tie up my day (…lessons of life being too nice). From that, I know not to say I’ll be somewhere and not show (late sometimes but I’m showing up).

Moral of the story is respect people’s time(even when someone takes the time to do something nice for you) and money and most of all friendship. It’s not worth losing friends over being inconsiderate and unappreciative, right?

Tip of the day: Credibility is everything (that’s what credit is about)

Wearing: LV bag, CL heels, James Perse t-shirt(so comfy),J brand pants, Sweet Rags custom made vest.

Secretly your’re watching…

 

Hope everyone had a great weekend.:) 

  • I love colors, anything bright.
  • As you can also tell these are one of my favorite pair of shoes.
  • When you leave a comment can you please leave the name of your site. My friends and I are sometimes curious and would like to check out your blog.
  • Thanks NECA for leaving a comment on every post from the day I started.
  • Forget personal issues this site is about fashion and wisdom, focus!
  • Done with my random thoughts for now…
  • Have a great day!!!!

 Tip of the day: Be wise as a serpent humble as a dove!

Wearing: Random top, F21 skirt and belt(backwards) CL heels, LV wallet.

I’m special to him…

 

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It’s our Anniversary!!!

5 years ago today is the day I married the 
love of my life! I can tell you about the rough road on the way here but I’ll save that for another day because right now I feel so blessed to know that we made it this far and are more in love than the first day we met. He really has grown into the man I love. What I mean is, when you first meet someone it’s all fun. Then, things change, you change, kids come along, the scenery changes and then everything is different. I love the man he has grown to be , the father he has grown to be, the husband he has grown to be. I wouldn’t change anything about him or what we’ve been through because that’s what got us where we are right now, still back to the root of things and still in love!!! I’m so happy today and can’t wait for my anniversary present. He can never wait until dinner. He’s so excited about what he has for me that the anticipation of seeing my reaction when I open my gift is fun for him. But it’s not just about the material gift. It’s just a jump start on how exciting our lovely evening will be and what is in store. Like wearing something he has never seen me in or putting on his favorite dress and what ever he says for the rest of the evening. He is my King (that’s his gift). Baby, thanks for always coming after me and loving me when sometimes I don’t love myself, encouraging me, and listening to me when I’m sad. Take it in , digest it, and let it go, as he says. LOML(love of my life). Here’s to 555 more years! Baby, WE MADE IT!!!!!!!!! Smooth sailing from here with God in our life!

anniversaryanniversarySorry the pics aren’t clear. I took the pics of my album with my camera. Didn’t have time to download the pics to my new computer. My husband is really private so I wasen’t gonna post these pics but he apporoved (:B).On my way out, gotta go see ya next time…

Love me or leave me ALONE!!!!


I know you’re thinking, this girl runs her mouth, but I like to share my life experiences with you because I know many people go through the same things. I also care about people and I’m a deep person. I always look forward to the responses that people share. I love receiving and reading your comments. All the feedback that I receive makes it so worth it.

Lately, I’ve observed that people tend to put others down or to find fault in the things that they do (get dirt on them). The truth is, everyone has a past but it’s about today, the future (moving forward) and what’s in your heart. God controls my destiny so even when the devil tries to use someone to get to me, they will never succeed because at the end of the day, I follow what God tells me to do. There’s a thin line between words and wounds and it’s very cruel to get a laugh out of the misfortune of others.

Imagine an instance where someone gets into a car accident, something happens to them that causes a terminal handicap and then someone makes fun of them. That would be sad, right? It’s just as sad that someone would have to use other’s faults and bring attention to other people’s short comings or difficulties to get attention for themselves. Those are desperate acts. I really get sad when I think about my girls growing up in a world where people are so cruel and evil. Face it, people who get joy out of talking about someone or trying to put them down are evil. 

I thought I’d take this time out to try and encourage you because sometimes I have to look deep inside and encourage myself that what goes on in life and how you look is not by accident. God knows how many hairs are on your head and exactly what the blueprint of your entire life looks like. There is an experience to learn from in every scenario. I look for the positive in people. Trying to find the negative is a very unhealthy habit. 

When people have no peace and are unhappy they try to take the focus off of themselves by pointing out the flaws of others. I hope that if anyone is going through this kind of experience right now that they will find strength in God and within themselves and don’t let the people that say things affect you. People can’t stop the plans of greatness that God has for your life. If they continue to try to bring you down, they are NOBODYS…!!!! Likewise, if you are a person that has gotten caught up with trying to bring others down please remember that….. As you continue in that way, karma will catch up and the shoe will be on the other foot. Karma is real. You don’t get away with anything in this life. If u think so you are sadly mistaken. Decide whether you are going to move in a negative direction and promote negativity or whether you will be positive and push forward against the negativity. Have a great week! 

Quote of the day:”How people treat you is their Karma, how you react is yours!” Tanvi
Keep ya head up faithful readers! Until next time, peace and love.

P.S. Thanks to the bloggers that featured me on their sites. I hope that we can continue to support one another in a respectable and decent manner. 
Wearing: Banna Republic blouse, DVF Skirt, Fendi heels, Dior bag.
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Date Night…

 I’ve been in one of the hottest states in the country for the last six days so sorry for the lack of updates not that you care but I thought I’d apologize.

I haven’t taken any photos or even cared to get dressed for that matter so I’m gonna show you a couple of examples on what  to wear when going on a date ( lunch and dinner ). Here are some pics over the past couple of years of outfit’s I wore out on a date with my #1. I always want to impress him because he is on it. If I buy something new he notices, if I put that little extra curl in my hair he notices so this makes it fun for me to make the extra effort to make him smile(and also for him to pay me that extra compliment that I love).:B

Evening date…

 Lunch Date…

 Club date…    This is my favorite dress(sorry so blurry but you get the picture).

Find me in your heart…

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This is one of my favorite tops. It has bells on the front so when you move they chime. I also love these shoes because of the interesting heel. Got these pants on sale and I think I’m in love with them now. There it is I love everything I have on…

findfindL.A.M.B top, Alice and Olivia pants, Bottega Veneta heels.

Preach!!!

The last post caused a bit of a stir that was unexpected. I just wanted to say to her that God loves you. I also want to say that I didn’t take offense to what she (you) said in fact I think it was a sign for us to get to know each other. I will be visiting your site on a regular basis and leaving words of wisdom and everyone else should do the same. I know that God would not give up on anyone. HE would help that person and that’s what my heart is telling me to do (have to follow my heart).

 I’m asking everyone of you that took the time to leave her those beautiful messages, to visit her site occassionally. It’s really a nice site. I’ve come to learn that this person does have a heart, but is hurting. She’s from Germany and learned english not to long ago.

 Anywho, with that being said I’m asking for us to come together and learn to embrace anyone that we feel is having a tough time in life. Hope I’m not calling you out by leaving your site name here for other bloggers to visit. I promise they’ll be nice because that’s God’s way. Thanks everyone for your kind gestures and letting me know you always have my back(as I have yours:).

Visit this site please: http://justme-4-u.blogspot.com/

Tip of the day: GIRL POWER!!!

Feeling HOT, HOT, HOT……

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It is so HOT! I ‘m sitting here with the air on full blast watching movies. I was gonna go to the mall but I don’t need to spend any money (on a saving mission). Day’s like this is when I really appreciate my home.

Tip of the day: Stay cool and stay out of the sun because the sun can be just as bad for you as it could be good. 🙂

James Perse tank, Rebecca Taylor shorts, Christian Louboutin Heels (LOVE).

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…………Quality time with family will help any problem…………

 

I ‘ve been spending the week with my little brothers. They are visiting from Belize. We went all over the place since this is their first time to the states. It sounds so cute hearing Laila and Amaya calling them uncle and they’re so small.:) I’ve been having so much fun and it’s been like 200 degrees where I’m at so it’s very uncomfortable outside unless your in the water. Here’s some pics of us this week. Amaya hates taking pics thats why she’s never in them.:( Have a great weekend. 
 
 

 

Tip of the day: Don’t cast your pearls to swines. (Matthew 7:6.:)

Food for thought…

 

dating

 I have a couple of girlfriends that are back on the dating scene. While I know this is exciting, I just want to make mention of a couple of precautions, I believe, are very important.

Men date you and then they tend to get bored sometimes if you are always available at their “beck and call”. Try to pace yourself and give them a chance to show their interest also. Kinda like a dance. He takes one step, you take one step. If you are doing all the stepping, you’re dancing solo, lol. But, hey, some never notice until it becomes tiring and maybe too late.Occasionally, you’ll have those rare cases where you met someone and you’re with them everyday from that day forward. This may be feel like the best scenario ever but before getting caught up and whisked away in emotion, take those first couple of days to ground yourself and take inventory of who you are, who they are and if that’s what will really work for you long term. Then brace yourself! And, understand, that there is so much about this person you don’t know yet. So, you musn’t assume that just because you feel it’s perfect that your beau is the perfect person. Who knows what you may learn about who this man really is. No one is perfect, so understand that he may have flaws that will surprise you, upset you and even disappoint you, if he is human (you might have yourself a robot), lol. You have to “know when to hold’em, know when to roll’em, know when to walk away, know when to run”(Lyrics from “The Gambler”), lol! Be cautious but not unrealistic.Most Importantly: WOMEN never doubt yourselves! Know your worth! (“Priceless…far above rubies”). Know what you deserve and never settle. Don’t let insecurity eat you up. Always, put God first. In Him, there is no competition. Therefore, you shouldn’t have to worry about the next woman. Do you! No one can compete with who God made you to be. There is no match, so be confident.

I feel like I married my dream guy. We have had problems, but I know ultimately God made him just for me. He is my best friend and I love a man that is respected. Guys will do only what you allow them to do. That’s why it’s important to get to know a guy and date for a while before you decide to take it to the next phase cause once that’s crossed, there is no turning back.

Tip: Expect more..

 

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