One thing that I’m not is a fake person. I may have done some things in my past when I was younger that wasn’t cool and it’s apart of growing, but I’d say from age 23 until now I’ve been real with the people in my life and that includes what I write about on my blog. If I don’t like you (because it’s clear that you’ve crossed me) I’m not the type to care what’s going on in your life. If I see you in public there is no hi you will feel my vibe. I wish everyone the best but snakes don’t take up space in my mind. I especially won’t be on your face book page, asking people where you’ve been, what kind of car you drive… (why) because I don’t care. I feel like every second of my life is accounted for. If I do have spare time I’m trying to think of ways to better myself, help someone in need or trying to get some rest. I’ll never understand why people are so nosy and interested in others lives when it’s clear they don’t like the person. So why do they care what’s going on in their life so much? It’s clear they have no vision…lack of ambition which is Wack!

Tip of the day: What’s done in the dark always comes to light. Get ready when it does…

Wearing: Trina Turk skirt, Target tank, YSL heels, LV bag.

There are few people in this world that I know God sent them here to be angels to others. My mom has been an angel to so many people in her life. I don’t know how she did it but she never would turn anyone down when they asked her for something, especially if it was a necessity. I know part of my blessings are from her good doings (planting good seeds) to others. When I was younger my mom would hunt for bargains every moment she had free to purchase things for her family back in Belize or anyone that was less fortunate. She never wanted to give others used things. Her motto, “everyone deserves something new” because she knew what it felt like to be less fortunate when she was a child. I would go shopping with my dad and come home with beautiful items that I adored and she would say, now pick one so we can give it to a little girl that has never had a pretty dress. That always made me smile and changed my mind when I would think, how about we give them one of my old dresses:). Eventually when she wasn’t able to do things the way she use to…poof all the calls disappeared. Funny huh!

Now like I always say there’s a good and bad to everything so here it goes with this scenario. My mom was so focused on others that we barely ever spent quality time together. I would admire her still because I knew she was doing good for others, but my heart ached when I would want us to do something special. As I started to get older I began to see how people would only call her when they needed something but her heart was so giving she could never turn anyone down. I remember when one of my so called friends called her crying and saying she would be put out of her house, my mother immediately paid her mortgage but come to find out the girl went shopping with the money.  My mom has helped so many people that it has rubbed off on me. I help so much only for people to use me as well. But even when people say I’m naive or a sucker for a sad story, I always remember that it came from my heart so whan people’s conniving intentions have planned when coming to prey on the good will definitely be revealed. Also once you find out who these people are, they proceed to their next victim and don’t realize they are planting bad seeds. So if your a giver don’t focus on those type of people too much. Eventually they’ll come to a dead end and will regret using the only people that had their back. Keep helping.

I am writing this to say don’t call people only when you need something. If you do you are considered a user. Furthermore if someone is  kind enough to help me in a time of need I would cherish this person for the rest of my life. I wouldn’t be able to probably return the favor on exact terms as what they’ve done for me, but I’d show them I appreciate them and not only call when I needed something. 

Thought of the day: God bless my mom:)

Wearing: H&M blousse, Gucci heels, F21 belt.

You can never say what someone will or will not do until they are put in that predicament. Life has a funny way of showing you certain things about people.

There are people who will always say I told you so, but does that always mean they have your best interest at heart? Come to find out these are the people I end up having to beware of the most in the end.

The person that always tells you to watch out for others is the main one you should keep your eye on sometimes.  Always approach those type of people with caution. I’m not saying it can’t come from a good place, but it can come from a bad place because the person wants to take the focus off of themselves so they are always warning you of others…

 Tip of the day: Don’t put anything pass anyone…then you’ll never be disappointed.

Wearing: Marc Jacob Top, Vintage skirt, Guess belt, LV bag, Camilla Skovgaard Heels.

Ladies there will always be someone prettier than us, richer than us, has a better personality than us, more wiser than us sooooo we have to get over the insecurities. When you know who you are as a person and know what you can bring to any relationship then there is no room to be insecure when others comes around. Just be happy with yourself. That’s the way God made you.

When I’m out with my husband there can be the most beautiful woman around and I’ll tell her she’s pretty. If we are at the store and I see someone with a cute blouse on I’ll say excuse me where did you get your top, I love it! Now if my husband decides he’s interested in someone other than me whether it be a stranger or someone I know, (I have beautiful friends inside out) if he disrespect me (he knows better) in my face I will say something on the spot.  If he ever tried it again or even ever cheated on me I would forgive him once, but I will never be afraid to walk away because I’m secure within myself and if he thinks his life would be better with someone else then I’ll let him have that. Never will I act insecure around others or avoid anyone because I’m afraid he would be attracted to them. That is no way to live and if you fear that in a guy, it’s time to get rid of him and time for you to get secure within yourself! 

Now some women are just insecure period with or without a man. They treat women mean without even letting the person open their mouth to see if they have a good heart. I was talking to my 17 year old reader about her insecurities (perfectly normal at her age) and told her you are special and you have to know that deep down inside. You cannot compare yourself with others because that will put you in a rut. Instead take that time and better yourself and follow your dreams to make you better. You can be the most beautiful woman on earth and when you open your mouth you can get ugly  real quick! Beauty is also in the eyes of the beholder, so there will be some people that think you’re pretty and others that will tell your friends, but there is no need to feel insecure when you are around anyone. Hold your head high with a smile. That’s what I call beauty.:)

No matter what happens in your life know what you have to offer in a relationship. Value yourself enough to know that you are worth a man cherishing only you. Of course they’ll glance  at other women that’s human nature, but know that there is a man that will respect you and only have eyes for you! People can tell when you are insecure so don’t give off an insecure energy when out with your friends or your guy.:)

P.S My husband hates when I write posts like this, he hates when I involve him in my girl power messages, he ses why do I have to involve him in my post when he did nothing:). But what he does knows is that what I’m saying is real. That’s why he loves me:)

Tip of the day: Proverbs 17;22 A merry heart doeth good like a medicine; but a broken spirit drieth the bones.

Wearing: F21 dress, Gucci shoes, Banna Republic, Balenciaga Bag.

There’s nothing greater and more humbling to me than when a person apologizes. My husband taught me that there is no shame in apologizing. If he does something wrong he’s the first to apologize and I love that about him. On my latest post there was a little bit of drama concerning one of my readers. I began to pray for her and not even 24 hours later she was on here apologizing for her actions. I respect and admire  her for that because she didn’t have to. She could have just went about her life as though it never happened, but she checked herself and that’s what life’s about. None of us are perfect and when making mistakes it’s important that we learn from them. When you feel like you’re at a dead end, you can always turn around.

This is perfect time to talk about how to deal with negativity. When someone ses or does something that’s hurtful to you in your face or behind your back, there’s no need to retaliate and fight a negative with a negative. I know this from experience. I’ve had good friends and complete strangers be mean to me for no apparent reason, but I ignore them and stay away from them. I’ve also learned not to take things so personal. There are obstacles thrown our way in all forms, so I just see it as another hurdle to jump over, furthermore I know when I’m tested and I act with kindness, I always get rewarded from God. Plus that’s just who I am naturally. When a person is intentionally being mean you gotta wonder is that person truly happy? Why would anyone that was happy want to hurt someone else. That alone is punishment because they’ll drown in their own misery and if we pray for these people they’ll eventually come around:)

Remember when someone ses something to hurt your feelings true or not, ignore them, pray for them and let them deal with their issues and I promise you they’ll eventually revert to kindness because they’ll say “I’ve done everything to push this person’s buttons and they just won’t bite”. They might not apologize, but know you’ll still be rewarded when you brush it off , act with kindness and forgive them without their permission..

Tip of the day: Good always outweighs evil:) Trust me…

Wearing: Theory Shirt, J Brand Jeans, Casadei Heels, Gucci Bag.

Late dinner with the family at THAI BBQ in Encino…

A pic from a previous feature in an online magazine… thought I’d feature it here as well for those that missed it.

Bags that will carry me through fall…

Coat collection with color because I’m loyal to my vibrant colors all year long.

A couple of weekends ago I had the pleasure of working with my dear friends sisters Rakhara and Vakhara over at Indulgent Occasions. The twin sisters are an unstoppable duo when it comes to what Chef Vakhara can whip up in the kitchen complemented by her sisters Rakhara’s fabulous decor. This particular event  the birthday girl spared no expense so you know it was flawless. Nothing was missing. They had beautiful people at their brunch in addition to great food in their to die for home. One of my favorite highlights was the freshly squeezed watermelon juice. The guest mixed it with champagne. I had so much fun working with them. 

Va and Ra as I call them has had their company for some time now. We are trying to get a television show and still working out the details. You guys would be very inspired to see how well they work and the way they settle their minor disputes when it comes to everything turning into perfection.

• There are two sides of the spectrum when it comes to people, the ones that give a little extra kindness, and those that go a little extra to be evil.

• Generosity speaks volumes about your character. I don’t have to know you to be kind to you. You can be transforming your future by just a little extra kindness!

• There are people that make friends just to get close to you so they can use you, and that’s not cool, but still be kind and see them for who they are.

• You’d be surprised how a simple act of kindness from someone that you knew would look out for you… wouldn’t even return the favor. In fact some of these people don’t even have your best interest at heart, they hate you because you were able to help them. This is what trips me out sometimes. But always remember God don’t like ugly.

Tip of the day: “A giver gets blessed, a taker has to live from day to day”…

I’ve noticed some women seemed to be easily impressed by material items when a man tries to flaunt it in their face. It may look nice and you may feel like you’ve hit the jackpot, but many times women end up getting fooled. They should consider it a lesson learned because this shouldn’t be their primary reason for talking to a man anyway.

Guys that go to the club and  buy’s  “things” to try and get your attention shouldn’t impress you. You should want a man that doesn’t have to flaunt what he has, instead let his character determine who he is. You want a man that’s conservative with his cash so when he does decide to buy you a gift you’ll know it’s special because he isn’t going around buying every Jane something just so he can get what he wants.

This shouldn’t be even a issue, but in most cases it is. Everyone wants a real man right, which consists of him first being able to take care of himself. I’m sure most successful women want  a man that’s financially stable and that’s perfectly ok seeing that when you can hold yourself down (pay your own bills) you deserve to be selective.

Lastly a man should be willing to date you and show you a good time. I’m a firm believer in doing what you want when you feel like it, because let’s face it we are all grown, but you shouldn’t allow yourself to become attached to quickly and that’s normally the case for women after they’ve become intimate with a man. That’s why I suggest you wait until you feel likes he’s into you, on top of having values, but that’s another post.:)

Tip of the day: Don’t be so easily impressed with “things”.

Wearing: Calvin Klein Jean button up, Burberry Skirt, Prada Leopard Heels, nneka saran Bag   (love this comfy bag).

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